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There is an interesting notion that tells us a man cannot get it up when he feels less than comfortable with his partner. But then we ask the question, “why have sexual intercourse with a woman in the first place if he doesn’t feel comfortable doing so?”

It really is a case to case basis. Under the dark cloud of performance anxiety, a man could fail to get hard when he feels inferior or even overwhelmed by the fact that the woman of his dreams is willing to sleep with him. The discomfort stems from his deep seated insecurities and self doubts. The pressure could build up earlier and prior to the sex act. He could have been pursuing her for a very long time, thinking about how hard he is going to be when they finally have sex, and how much she would appreciate his wealth of experience in the sex department.

As mentioned in this article about mental state effects on sexual performance, getting a rock hard erection during the very first sexual contact with a lady could be trickier than the guy anticipated. The discomfort could occur during the meet up, foreplay session or during penetration. The man’s focus shifts from the person to the act, and over analysis of his performance could translate to impotence.

Sexual ego under pressure plays a big role in a man’s performance. A lot of hidden factors play a significant role in the erection process, such as: what will she think of my abilities in bed? and is she impressed yet?

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Some surveys on male sexuality yield results that not only astound but also open up a pandora’s box of conclusions about the myths on sexual relationships between men and women. One such survey is the Great Male Survey from AskMen.com, which attracted seventy five thousand participants. The section on sexuality questions showed that 59% of the men think sex is a crucial part of a relationship; and that 39% of the men make love for only 15 to 30 minutes per session.

Sexual contact duration could be based on several things: libido, partner’s interest, stamina and erection duration. Some physiological factors that could affect sexual performance include age, previous and present metabolic or cardiovascular diseases (anxiety disorders, diabetes, hypertension etc.), self esteem, drugs being consumed, alcohol presence in the blood and time constraints. Some antihypertensive and antidepressant drugs negatively affect sexual performance, making full consummation impossible for men (impotence) and painful for women (vaginal dryness).

These findings on men’s sexuality contradict the previous knowledge on male sexual capacity. For years, the male equivalent of menopause, coined andropause, has been considered a myth, but men have long been talking about being unable to make love for one reason or another when they reach a certain age. With the advent of Viagra, the term “middle age crisis” has become linked with sexual dysfunction and inability to communicate intimate needs in a relationship. Those men who buy Viagra can now openly admit to doing so.

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